Poyesera kuthandiza kapena kupeza chithandizo, anthu ambiri agwera m'njira yolakwika. Wolemba Colin Standish († 2018)

[Zindikirani d. Mkonzi: Nkhaniyi ikufuna kutidziwitsa kuti tikhale abusa abwino. Mfundo yakuti kuyang'ana kwambiri apa ndi pa zoopsa siziyenera kubisa momwe chisamaliro cha abusa chili chofunika kwambiri komanso chopindulitsa pamene chimadziwika ndi kulemekeza kukhulupirika kwa omwe akufuna thandizo. Tikufuna aphungu ambiri kuti tikwaniritse okhumudwa monga momwe Yesu anachitira.]

Pazaka 20 zapitazi, upangiri wa upangiri ndi kuphunzitsa moyo wakula kukhala bizinesi yayikulu ya madola mamiliyoni ambiri. Amuna ndi akazi ochulukirachulukira akutenga udindo wa mphunzitsi wa moyo, wochiritsa kapena abusa kwa anthu osawerengeka omwe amavutika ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana zamaganizidwe ndi zina.

Mpingo wachikhristu udachitapo kanthu mwamsanga utaona kuti anthu ambiri ankafuna malangizo kwa akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo ndipo akuchoka kwa atsogoleri achipembedzo omwe kale ankakhala abusa. Posakhalitsa, abusa ambiri anafuna maphunziro owonjezereka a kuphunzitsa moyo. Iwo anali ndi chikhumbo chachibadwa chopanga njira zogwirira ntchito zaubusa.

Kuphunzitsa moyo si luso latsopano. M’Chipangano Chakale ndi Chatsopano muli zochitika zambiri pamene munthu wina anapereka malangizo kwa mnzake. M’zaka za uminisitala wa Yesu, amuna onga Nikodemo ndi Mnyamata Wolemera anamfunafuna iye kaamba ka uphungu wa moyo wawo waumwini. Mosakayikira, ndi bwino kuti amuna ndi akazi azilangizana ndi kulimbikitsana ndi kutsogolerana kunjira yachilungamo. Komabe, chisamaliro chaubusa chingakhalenso chowopsa, makamaka pamene abusa apanga mtundu uwu wa utumiki kukhala wofunika kwambiri pa ntchito yawo. Choncho n’kothandiza kudziwa zina mwa zoopsa zimene zimachitika pa ntchitoyi.

Chidziwitso: ngozi yomanga!

Ntchito yofunika kwambiri ya m'busa aliyense woitanidwa ndi Mulungu ndi kutsogolera amene akufunafuna uphungu kudalira Mulungu kotheratu - osati pa anthu. "Aliyense pamudzi akuyenera kuzindikira kuti Mulungu ndi yekhayo amene ayenera kufunafuna zomveka bwino pazantchito zake. Ndi bwino kuti abale azikambirana. Komabe, munthu akafuna kukuuzani ndendende zimene muyenera kuchita, muyankheni kuti mukufuna kutsogoleredwa ndi Yehova.”Umboni 9, 280; onani. zizindikiro 9, 263)

Ellen White akuwonetsa kuopsa kodalira anthu. “Anthu amakhala pachiwopsezo chomvera malangizo a anthu ndipo potero amanyalanyaza malangizo a Mulungu.”Umboni 8, 146; onani. zizindikiro 8, 150) Ichi ndi ngozi yoyamba m’mabusa. Choncho, m’busa angachite bwino kuonetsetsa kuti sakutsogolera mwangozi munthu wofuna uphungu woti azimudalira m’malo modalira Mulungu. Pakuti ngakhale phungu wopembedza sangalowe m’malo mwa Mulungu. Sipanakhalepo chizoloŵezi chachikulu kuposa lerolino choyang’ana anthu m’malo moyang’ana kwa Mulungu. Nthawi zambiri, kudalira koteroko kumatha kufooketsa kukhazikika kwa uzimu ndi malingaliro a wolangizidwayo. Anthu ambiri akhala akudalira uphungu wa abusa kotero kuti pamene abusa amachoka amamva kutayika, kukhala opanda pake ndi mantha omwe amadza chifukwa chodalira mopanda thanzi pa munthu wina.

Komabe, m’busa angapeŵe ngozi imeneyi ngati akukumbutsa mosalekeza awo ofuna uphungu kuti iye mwini sangathe kuthetsa mavuto amene abuka, koma kuti angakonde kuwatsogolera kwa m’busa woona ndi mawu ake olembedwa. Choncho cholinga chachikulu cha mbusa chikhale kutembenuza maso a anthu ofuna uphungu ndi kutembenukira kwa Mulungu. Ngakhale chizindikiro chaching’ono chosonyeza kuti wina ayamba kudalira m’busa chikhoza kuthetsedwa mwamsanga ndi mwachikondi, kotero kuti munthu amene akufuna uphungu amazindikira bwino kuti Mulungu ndiye mphamvu ndi pothaŵirapo.

Chenjerani ndi kunyada!

Choopsa chachiwiri chomwe chimawopseza abusa ndi kudzikonda kwake. Pamene anthu ochulukirachulukira amabwera kwa inu kuti akupatseni upangiri ndi chitsogozo m'miyoyo yawo, mutha kuyamba kudziona ngati wofunika kwambiri. Izi zikuyimira chiwopsezo chachikulu ku chipulumutso chauzimu cha abusa, kudzikuza kotereku, komwe kumabwera kuchokera ku munthu wosatembenuka mtima, kumayika pachiwopsezo kukula kwake kwa uzimu. Kuchita ntchito imene Mulungu sanakupatseni kungakhale ndi zotsatirapo zoipa. "Mulungu amanyozedwa kwambiri pamene anthu adziyika okha m'malo mwake. Iye yekha ndi amene angapereke malangizo osalephera.”Umboni kwa Atumiki, 326)

Kudzikonda kungathandizenso kupanga mgwirizano pakati pa munthu wopempha malangizo ndi m’busa. Akamayamika kwambiri thandizo lake, m'pamenenso amakhala pachiwopsezo choti angasangalale - ndi zotsatira zoyipa.

[Yesu anatipatsa chitsanzo cha mmene chisamaliro chaubusa chopanda dyera chimaonekera ndi kuti kutumikira mochokera pansi pa mtima kwa anthu anzathu sikuyenera kupangitsa munthu kukhala wodzikuza mwanjira iriyonse.]

Zosokoneza kuchokera ku mishoni

Vuto linanso limene mlaliki amakumana nalo: akamathera nthawi yambiri pa ntchito imeneyi, amakhala ndi nthawi yochepa yochita umishonale wokangalika. Koposa zonse, alaliki akupatsidwa lamulo lachindunji la Yesu lakuti: “Pitani ku dziko lonse lapansi… lalikirani Uthenga Wabwino!

[…] Ndikofunikira kubwerera ku maziko a Ntchito Yaikuru. Komabe, alaliki ambiri amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito za utsogoleri ndi uphungu wa abusa kotero kuti amatha kuthera nthawi yochepa pa kulengeza kwachindunji kwa uthenga wabwino ndi kufunafuna njira zatsopano za choonadi.

Nkofunika kuti aliyense woitanidwa ku utumiki amvetse ntchito yake, yomwe ndi kuuza amuna ndi akazi za Yesu ndi kubweranso kwake kumene. Nthawi zambiri, nthawi yonse ya mlaliki imatengedwa ndi chisamaliro cha ubusa. Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti asamagwire ntchito imene anapatsidwa poyamba.

Tsoka ilo, alaliki angapo afika pozindikira kuti ntchito yaubusa ndi udindo wawo waukulu. N’chifukwa chake ena asiya ntchito yawo yolalikira n’kuyamba ntchito yophunzitsa anthu moyo wawo wonse.

Mfundo apa si kuweruza, chifukwa pangakhalenso zifukwa zomveka za kusintha koteroko. Koma n’kofunika kwambiri kuti m’busa apende zolinga zake zimene zatsogolera kapena zapangitsa kusintha koteroko.

[Ngati okhulupilira aliyense atumikira anthu anzake pamlingo wofanana ngati “wansembe” aubusa, abusa akhonza kukhazikika pakulengeza Mau. Ndiye chisamaliro chaubusa chingakhalebe chopanda chiwawa komanso mwaulemu m’mbali zonse.]

Chenjerani, chiopsezo cha matenda!

Choopsa chachinayi kwa abusa chili ndi zosowa za moyo wa munthu. Mwina nthaŵi zina timanyalanyaza mfundo yakuti osati munthu wofuna uphungu yekhayo komanso abusa amene angatengeke ndi maganizo. Ndi njira zambiri zaubusa zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito masiku ano, mlangizi amachita mozama ndi zomwe zafotokozedwa momveka bwino tsatanetsatane chiwerewere cha munthu wofuna uphungu ndi moyo wake wauchimo ndi wotayirira. Koma zimawononga kukula kwauzimu kwa m’busa kumva uthenga woterewu tsiku ndi tsiku umene umawononga mwauzimu. Tsogolo lamuyaya la munthu likhoza kukhala pachiswe chifukwa choganizira kwambiri zinthu zimenezi. Ndikosavuta bwanji kukhala ovomereza anthu ambiri. Koma Mulungu sanayikepo udindo uwu pa m'busa. Choncho, tiyeni tipeŵe kumangoganizira za uchimo! M’malo mwake, tiyeni tiloze awo ofuna uphungu ku magwero enieni a chikhululukiro!

[Pamafunika kusamala kwambiri kuti munthu akhale womvetsera wabwino kumbali ina, ndipo, kumbali ina, polemekeza zinsinsi za munthu amene akufuna thandizo, kuwalimbikitsa kutsitsa tsatanetsatane wa machimo awo pa Atate wathu wakumwamba. Ndi Mzimu Woyera wokha umene ungatithandize kuchita zinthu moyenera aliyense payekha payekha.]

Bwererani ku mawu omveka

Chikhumbo chachikulu cha uphungu wa moyo wa munthu pakati pa anthu a Mulungu ndi chizindikiro cha umphaŵi wa chikhulupiriro m’nthaŵi yathu. Amuna ndi akazi amene alemedwa ndi zosoŵa za moyo alibe mtendere wa Yesu, umene ungabweretse chikhutiro. Iwo amadalira anthu kuti awathandize ndi kuwatsogolera pa moyo wawo. Baibulo lili ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kukhumudwa, kutaya mtima ndi kusakhulupirirana. Tsoka ilo, mankhwalawa amatenga gawo locheperako m'miyoyo ya Akhristu ambiri. “Chotero chikhulupiriro chidza ndi kumva, ndi kulalikidwa ndi mawu a Khristu.” ( Aroma 10,17:XNUMX )

Alaliki akupemphedwa kuchita khama lawo lalikulu mwa kutsogolera mipingo pophunzira Mawu a Mulungu mosalekeza. Ndi njira iyi yokha yomwe maziko a moyo wachikhristu ndi chitukuko angayikidwe. Ngati pali chilichonse chimene tikufuna, ndiko kudalira Mulungu. Ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kufooka kwa uzimu, kukhumudwa ndi moyo wodziyimira pawokha kuchokera kwa Yesu.

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Yankho lenileni

Yankho lenileni la mavuto a chikhalidwe, maganizo ndi uzimu silipezeka mwa munthu kapena mwa munthu mnzathu koma mwa Yesu. Nthawi zambiri makochi amoyo amayesa kupeza mayankho mkati mwa munthuyo. Ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njira yosinthidwa ya Carl Rogers' talk therapy. Mu mtundu uwu wa chithandizo, wothandizira amakhala ngati khoma la echo kuti athandize munthu wovutika kupeza njira yothetsera vuto lomwe linawabweretsa kwa wothandizira. Njira imeneyi imachokera ku filosofi yachikunja ya Agiriki chifukwa yazikidwa pa lingaliro lakuti pali choonadi m’maganizo a munthu aliyense ndi kuti anthu angapeze mayankho awoawo ku zosoŵa zawo.

Ena amagwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yamphamvu kwambiri yosinthira khalidwe. Komabe, izi zimatengera kwambiri mfundo za m'busa. Abusa amadzitengera yekha kuti afotokoze zomwe zili zoyenera. Chotero iye ali pangozi ya kudziika yekha m’malo a Mulungu kwa munthu wofuna uphungu ndi kum’chotsa pa magwero enieni a chithandizo chimene iye akufunikira kwambiri.

Udindo wa mlaliki ngati m'busa uyenera kuwunikiridwanso mwachangu; mphamvu zake ndi malire ake, kuti ntchito ya Mulungu isapatuke pa cholinga chake chenicheni ndi chofunika kwambiri - ndicho kukwaniritsidwa kwa Ntchito Yaikuru, kulengeza kwa Mau ku dziko lapansi, ndi uthenga wakuti Yesu akubwera posachedwapa.

[Ngati tidziŵa kuopsa kotchulidwa, uphungu ukhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zida zamphamvu kwambiri zomasula anthu ku unyolo kuti asangalale ndi moyo mokwanira, osati m’dziko lamdimali lokha, komanso kwamuyaya.]